BDSM Compatibility Test

Find out what you have in common with someone - without either of you having to go first.

How it works

Pick your questions

Choose from categories like rope, impact, D/s, romance, and connection. Or use a quick-start preset.

Both answer privately

Neither person sees the other's answers. Respond with yes, no, curious, or mark hard limits.

Both approve before results

You each see how many questions the other said yes to. Only after you both approve are the specific matches revealed.

Not a quiz. A negotiation tool.

Most BDSM tests give you a score or an archetype. Lykewise is different. You answer questions about specific people, discover where you overlap, then use the results to negotiate from shared ground. Only mutual interests are ever revealed.

Indicate intensity preferences (light to extreme) for each activity. Mark hard limits. Explore roles (top, bottom, either). The matching considers all of this.

Privacy by design

Your individual answers are never shared - only mutual matches
Both people must independently approve before anything is revealed
Either person can block at any time - nothing is disclosed
Test questions detect dishonest answering
No browsing, no swiping, no algorithms. You use it with people you choose

Use it for

Scene negotiation - discover shared interests before you play

Partner exploration - surface things you never discussed, then talk about them

Event pre-matching - share your profile link and let people self-select

Group compatibility - see what an entire polycule or friend group shares

Relationship check-ins - revisit interests as your dynamic evolves

Take the test - free

No payment required. No ads. Your data stays private.