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Split Answers: Me and Partner

Your answer for yourself and what you want from a partner are not always the same thing.

Until now, every question on Lykewise had one answer. Yes, no, curious, or limit. That answer meant both "this is what I want" and "this is what I want from ...

How to Negotiate Kink with a New Partner

Practical steps for figuring out what you both want before anything happens.

You have connected with someone new. There is chemistry and you both know kink is on the table, but you have not talked specifics yet. That conversation can ...

A Compatibility Checklist for Polyamorous Relationships

The questions that matter before you build something together.

Poly compatibility is not just about attraction. Two people can have incredible chemistry and still be structurally incompatible if they want fundamentally d...

What to Talk About Before Your First Scene

A practical checklist for the conversation that sets the tone for everything after.

Your first scene with someone new is exciting and nerve-wracking in roughly equal measure. The difference between a good first scene and a bad one usually co...

Why We Built Lykewise

What we were looking for, what already existed, and what we decided to make.

There are already apps that help couples explore what they are into. Spicer, Kindu, and a few others have been around for years, and they have helped a lot o...

Open Sets, Following, and a New Privacy Model

Share your interests publicly, follow people you are curious about, and control exactly who sees what.

Up until now, using Lykewise meant exchanging codes and creating sets for specific people. That works well when you already have someone in mind, but it does...

Intensity, Groups, and Better Negotiation Tools

Say how much, not just whether. Match with a whole group. Track what you have discussed.

A few things changed this week that make Lykewise more useful for the conversations that happen after you match.

A Lot More Questions to Work With

New lists for ENM, communication, consent, aftercare, and more -- plus a way to import your existing kink lists.

When Lykewise launched, the question lists focused on the core stuff: rope, impact, D/s, sexual interests, scene interests, and a handful of social and conne...

Mutual Mode, Roles, and Saved Answers

Three features that make sets work better for different situations.

Not every Lykewise set is a stranger vetting exercise. Sometimes you are using it with a partner, a close friend, or someone you already trust. The original ...

What We Have Been Working On

Quick start presets, follow-up sets, notifications, and making things easier to use.

Lykewise is a small project built by one person. It is actively being developed and things change regularly based on how people are actually using it. Here i...

What Is Lykewise?

A mutual interest matching tool for kink, play, romance, and connection.

Lykewise is a tool for finding out what you have in common with someone -- without either of you having to go first.

How Lykewise Protects Your Privacy

Six layers of defense between your answers and the other person.

When you answer questions about kink, play, or attraction, those answers are sensitive. Lykewise is designed so that your individual answers are never expose...

Using Question Sets with Play Partners

A practical guide to exploring compatibility before a scene.

You have been talking to someone about playing together. Maybe you met at a munch, connected on FetLife, or you are already friends. You have a sense of what...

Lykewise for Polyamorous Connections

How ENM folks use Lykewise to navigate new and existing dynamics.

Polyamorous and ENM relationships involve a lot of communication. Lykewise does not replace that communication, but it can make some conversations easier to ...

Tips for Honest Answers

Why authentic responses lead to better results for everyone.

The whole system depends on honest answers. If you say yes to things you are not actually into, the results are meaningless. Here is how to make the most of it.

Understanding Your Results

What matches mean, what they do not, and what to do next.

You both approved and now you can see your shared answers. Here is how to read them.